When the cat is away…
Life is very interesting when you enter the dating world. I am not sure about others though. But for me, when I am single, I can hardly get a date.
When I am seeing someone, all my ex-boyfriends, crushes or the guys I have casually dated seem to return into my life in some strange coincidence.
Yes, old memories. Some sweet, some bitter. Still memories nonetheless. Was there any temptation to cheat, you ask?
I will be lying if I said No. There is always the nagging question of ‘what if’ when you meet your old flame. But I know my stand and I would not do it. I have been cheated on and trust me the feeling is horrible.
A few months back when H, the gang and I sat and talked about the topic of sex, I thought H was crazy when he asked me about one night stands and whether I would do it. For me, one night stands are alright as long as both parties are single and matured adults. It depends on the individual. I can’t say if I would do it or not because I was never placed in such a situation. A friend interpreted his question as though H was asking me to have one with him. Which I think is the most absurb idea I have ever heard of. H has very interesting taste in women. Basically girls who are the opposite of me. H is attractive no doubt and I have failed to see a girl swoon because of him. Myself included but that was way before he and I became friends.
Recently my ex of two days, P, (yes, we only went steady for two days because I had a terrible shock to find a girl claiming to be his girlfriend, accusing me of trying to steal her man). Apparently he planned to cheat on her with me. Oh, great… Now I was the other woman.
Anyway, he contacted me saying that he wanted to meet up. Me, despite the numerous advice and disapproval of my friends went to see him. I still wanted my answer on why he was being such a jerk. Alas, I did not get it. The only thing I got was him asking us to be together again for just one night. WHAT???? Act as though we are lovers. What an interesting proposal.
This is basically what went down… The sentences have been changed but the message is the same.
P : I missed the old times when we were together. Sweet memories.
A: It is the past.
P : I want to relive our happy times.
A: You are already in a happy relationship, think of your girlfriend.
P : Everytime I close my eyes, I see you.
A: You have a girlfriend.
P : She is not here right now, is she?
I almost flipped. What kind of girl did he take me for??? Plus what kind of girl is the girlfriend to trust him. He has probably been feeding her lies for the past couple of years. This really sounds like good material for a really twisted soap opera.
But why me? Why can’t I have a quiet relationship, without all the drama? Perhaps, P, just wanted a fling. Just like any other regular guy. H told me before that most guys are bastards and will not stay loyal. Even in a relationship, they would want more than one partner.
That is scary. I guess it is true what they say, when the cat is away, the mouse is ready to come out to play.