The life and mind of Adeline Ong

I am not much for putting up my Christmas wish list. I know it is too late for people to rush out and buy me stuff if they wanted to but heck, let’s have some fun here.

1. A digital camera – as many of you know, I am one of the only bloggers who do not own a camera. Sad but true.
2. DVD of Across The Universe
3. A cool design for this outdated website
4. A portfolio shoot – headshots and the whole lot
5. A black laced corset
6. A pair of high knee leather boots
7. Thomas Sabo lucky charm
8. Katana
9. Kimono ala Jigoku Shoujo
10. My own entourage of PAs, stylist and publicist
11. Can I be cheeky and add WORLD PEACE?

It is amazing how 2008 just flew pass by me.

I know it sounds clichéd because I believe every other person has the same comment. But for me it is true. It was a year of many discoveries. Some positive, others not so. Happiness versus heartbreak moments. Memories that will last a lifetime.

Through them all, I have picked up some life lessons that I would love to share.

Responsibility – Taking charge of your life begins with being able to take responsibility for the things that we have done be it for the greater good or just because we are the devil’s advocate. If you choose to run away from responsibility, you will be running forever. Responsibility is scary at times but in the end, everything will work out.

Love – It is alright to fall in love and be vulnerable once in a while. It is alright to feel pain when love is lost. It is alright to just feel for once. Love is the mother of all emotions and all emotions are created equal.

Humanity – Hating people is alright as long as you still believe in humanity. There is good in every person no matter how horrible they may seem.

Career – There is no harm in trying for something you really want. Stagnation can only damage you. You are your own biggest supporter. Set the bar higher than usual, you will be amazed at the wonders that unfold.

Self Awareness – You do not always need to know the answer and that is alright.

Humility – No matter what happens in life. Always remember these 4 words. “THIS TOO, SHALL PASS�

Passion – Life is more enjoyable when you are passionate about something.

Money – It is just a tool. It does not define you. If you are skillful, money is a great servant. If not, money is the master of horrors.

Spirituality – Never underestimate the power of prayer. It is magical.

Individuality – Just be yourself. You are who you are and should not spend time trying to defend it or explain yourself. There will be haters, no doubt, but why bother, they are spending their time obsessing over your lack of conformity. You have FANS!!!

As the New Year comes forth, I hope I will be much wiser then. Happy New Year!!!

I know that I sound rather ungrateful at times when I lament that I am a struggling and jobless actor. But when I look back at my so called career in acting, I have done pretty well in 2008.

Coming Out of The Closet – May
Older (The Platform) - July
Waiting for Ashes (Short+Sweet) – August
Ketukung Togel – August
Cheng Ho and the Treasure Fleet – October
Hiding - November
The Stage – November

Despite the fact that many of these were short plays and films. It does cement the fact that I have advance in my acting compared to me being in Penang.

Let’s see what new projects 2009 will bring.

Someone asked me if I ever fallen for a co-star before.

Now this is a tough question because I am not sure how to tackle this.

I believe in love and that love can be spontaneous. However, I hold on to some principles such as not dating co-workers. Technically, my co-stars are my co-workers. I know that there are people who do it and there is nothing wrong with that. But for me, it does complicate matters. I applaud people who are able to keep the line clean between professional and personal life. I know I am capable of doing the same but I not only lack focus; I have a huge drama hook.

Coming back to love, I have not fallen for a co-star during productions. The ones that I have fallen for were actually my friends before we started out the productions and things went awry from there. Simply put, they happen to be my crushes before they became my co-stars.

The upside of having your crush as a co-star is, you just can’t wait to get to work. You become super productive and attentive. Well, at least I know I was more than happy to drive miles away to attend rehearsal even after my long day at work.

Plus, if your co-star is supposed to be your lover/partner in the show, it is easy to put in more emotional connection. But be warned that it is also hard to get out of it at times. This come as no surprise since many celebrities met their other half while filming on set. I shall not elaborate which couples because this is not a Hollywood gossip entry.

Productions are jobs to me and I for one will do my very best not to jeopardize that. It is true that the heart wants what the heart wants. So when it ever comes to that, I will make my decision then. For now, I am still able to maintain my professionalism.

One of my best mates is gay (though not many people know about it, which will lead to the next thing on this note) and he is not ashamed of it. I mean, why should you be ashamed to be who you really are right? More power to gaydom!!! (If there is even such a word. If not, I just created it so there!)

And NO, there will not be a prize for guessing who I am talking about here.

However, he could also be the reason why I am still single until today. Why is that? Simply because people think we are an item, which I find hilarious. I do not mind actually because I am single and have nothing else better to do than to fill the mind of the mundane and terminally bored folks whose sole purpose in life is to live through the lives of others. Plus, he does make good arm candy. (I could just hear him screaming now, “Oi! I am not your arm candy!�)

Anyway, if you have heard that the best friend a girl can have is a gay guy. It is true. I can testify to that.

This buddy of mine is generally a sweetheart through and through. I bet you he has a heart of caramel gold.

But then again, you do not want to make him angry. You will not like him when he is angry. Kind of reminds me of Gremlins. You know, they can be all soft and cuddly but after they pop out of their slimy cocoons, they become this reptilian like creatures that terrorize you. Alright, I admit I am exaggerating here. The moral of this paragraph is, don’t piss him off.

Now, I strongly believe that there is more than one soul mate for everyone out there. I do not care what other people say but to me; soul mates come in all different races, religion and of course, sexual orientation. They may appear any time in your life. And YES, you can have MORE than one.

So, yes, I am saying that my soul mate is GAY! And I won’t have it any other way…

If you are reading this – I love ya, just the way you are!!! Hugs!!!