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When 3 is a crowd
22/12/08
It has happened many times but I guess the nature of this thing being repetitive has taught me how to handle it maturely and gracefully.
One of my friend has gotten a boyfriend and funnily enough people around me are wondering how I feel. I guess most people are wondering how I would spend my time now since I will not be hanging out with my friend as often as I used to. What do they want me to feel anyway? Lonely? Sad? Jealous?
Honestly I feel really happy, I’ve met the boyfriend (before they were together) and he has received my seal of approval. They really deserve each other.
As for the seal of approval, it is not that I do not like my friends’ partners. But somehow, many have conveniently chose the dumbest assholes (Sorry, mind my language here.) to date. Argh!!! I apologize if my sisterly instincts kick in but it is always easier to spot the players and jerks when you are the third party. Trust me; I have had my share of dumb assed partners before. Conveniently I did not see that when I was dating them.
Back to the main topic.
Now just because my friend is dating someone means that we are no longer friends anymore. It is just that we have different priorities now. Which I believe is great because I strongly believe we would have killed each other if we spent too much time together. Will I miss the hang outs, the get together and activities we usually do as a duo? I would be lying if I said no. But everyone needs their own time and space.
Someone once lamented to me that now his social life had to change because his best friend has gotten a girlfriend and no longer has time to play PS2 with him anymore. Rather sad if you are a man in your mid 20s and the closest you ever got to a girl was Lara Croft. That is a different story all together.
Anyway, as they saying goes 3 is a crowd and trust me I have had enough experience being the lamp post in many dates of various couples. I know sometimes my friends feel bad because I might feel left out. After all, I have been single ever since dinosaurs roamed the face of the Earth. They have included me in activities with good intentions no doubt.
Sometimes I wish I could blatantly say, “ X (insert friend’s name), I want you to know that hanging out with just you and your boyfriend almost all the time is not my cup of tea and I am sure your boyfriend would want one on one time with you. Having me there will just spoil the romantic atmosphere.�
Personally, I feel we should be able to manage and separate time into 3 parts when it comes to hanging out – lovers, friends and the whole gang. I used to give my ex time alone with his friends because I strongly believe that you should not ignore your friends when you are in a relationship. Many people despite knowing so still ignore their friends when they are blissfully walking in the wonderland of love.
Currently, I am not sure how I fit into my friend’s crazy schedule. We will have to wait and see. Then again, if I do get lonely. I guess finding a boyfriend shouldn’t be too hard, is it?
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