Change is a marathon, not a sprint

Ask me 10 years ago, “Where would you be living in the future?”

The answer you’ll get is most likely, “Anywhere but Malaysia.”

Simply because I have lost hope in the country I was born in and bear its citizenship. 8 years ago, I had a chance to leave and choose to call another country home. But I did not.

At times, I wondered if I had made the right choice for staying.

I am not one to talk about politics. To be honest, I never thought I would or even care about it as much.

But the 13th General Election of my country has moved me so much that I would like to give my two cents. After all, everyone has become a political analyst this past few months.

First of all, I flew back from the capital just to vote in my hometown. Unlike some of my friends who waited for a long time to cast their votes, everything was done in 30 minutes at my polling station. Kudos to the team running that station – who were kind and courteous to the senior citizens and OKU.

After casting my vote, I went home and I waited.

Boy, did I wait for the results. I was supposed to be doing a mock exam and studying (that’s another story for another day) but the anticipation was killing me. I browsed through the social media for clues or inklings. After all, who can trust our ever efficient, unbiased mainstream media.

At a pace slower than the average garden snail, results begin to trickle in. The results – some victorious, others devastating.

While some have chosen to cry foul play, it has never been a secret that democracy is practically lip service. The word democracy is sprinkled here and there in attempts to pacify the people when it is convenient.

Many are disappointed. I know. But would it be realistic to clean up almost 6 decades of political blasphemy and freak shows overnight?

Despite the fact that we did not see the change we had hoped for, I am still rejoicing in the victories we had.

I am proud of Malaysians who came out and voted. No matter which party you chose, you stood up for your rights. Which in turn, change views that Malaysians are not as complacent and as ‘lazy’ as people claimed us to be.

Change is like a marathon, not a sprint.

In retrospect, I am glad I did not migrate. I am seeing the change, even though small, there is change.

I am glad and proud to call myself a Malaysian.

Today I could never be prouder.

Yes, I’ve changed my profile picture to black. But it is a reminder that there is light at the end of the tunnel. And if you have an awesome picture that depicts that, let me know. I’ll use that as my profile picture instead.

Memories of 2012

So the world did not end. Big whoop!

That means I get to review the year. Prior to coming up with this list, I was sulking over the fact that I did not do ANYTHING this year.

But it turns out to be quite an eventful year.


1. Zorbing and Archery for Ben’s Bachelor Hangout before the Wedding
2. Birth of May’s 2nd Daughter Daphney
3. My 30th birthday party in Bangkok with Mic, Jay, Golf and Nurn
4. RSC Night in Bangkok
5. Stags and Hens 12-hour cast party
6. Tattoo booth at the Chong Family Christmas party for refugee children
7. New Year’s Aspiration Meditation

In the Scene

1. Premiere of Relationship Status in TGV Sunway Pyramid
2. Promotion runs for Relationship Status
3. Emceeing Benny and Song Yia’s wedding
4. Doing make up for It’s The End Of The World and Kiss Of The Spiderwoman photo shoots
5. Misi Murakami!
6. Recording the backing track for Nick Davis’ single with my gals Roro, Erin and Tiara
7. Pabila Bulan Mengambang entering the Short and Sweet Theatre Gala Night
8. Performing in Stags and Hens
9. Les Miserables sneak preview
10. B.B.’s Movement Workshop

People (*Disclaimer: Some people have requested to be anonymous. So to make it fair, I will not be displaying names but projects/places/traits instead. You guys know who you are.)

1. Cast and Crew of Relationship Status
2. Cast and Crew of Pabila Bulan Mengambang
3. Cast and Crew of Stags and Hens
4. The gang in Mae Sot
5. The gang in Mae Hong Son
6. The Surfer Doctor
7. Mi EMP Familia
8. Supporters of the Performing Arts
9. My Boys in Thailand (Thank you for loving, trusting and respecting me and dreaming dreams that I do not dare to dream for myself)


1. Bangkok
2. Mae Sot
– Mae La Camp
– Umpiem Camp
3. Amsterdam, The Netherlands
4. Paris, France
5. Singapore
6. Chiang Mai
7. Mae Hong Son
8. Pai


1. Benny and Song Yia
2. Ong Chin Beng
3. Yogeswaran
4. Cousin Jenlyn
5. Kevin and Zen
6. Tan Wei Keng

Relationship Status in the Media

I was about 10 minutes for the press premiere which fellow cast mate commented.

“You live nearby and you are late?”

The preview went very well.

Had my first press interview for RTM1 (too bad I forgot to ask when it’ll be showing).

Fellow cast mate, Benji Lim and I were interviewed about our roles as brother and sister in the movie. It was slightly weird to do the interview in Malay. My once fluent Malay is now peppered with a lot of English. Eek!!!

An hour or so after the preview. 3 bloggers posted their reviews.

Relationship Status: Muka Buku Urban Love Actually by Fadz

Relationship Status (2012) – Warga Digital Jaringan Sosial? by Ajami Hashim

Relationship Status Movie Review by Syafiq

Thank you all for reviewing the movie.

I also later found out the Sneak Peek back in December made it into the Star today.

Stories and Statuses by Terence Toh